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Saturday, July 16, 2011

Bad Bad Bad News Just Came To Me...

Well.. I am just absolutely crushed and crying right now. One of my very very good friends who I care deeply about just called me and gave me some very bad news. He told me that he has cancer. I started to cry and I just cannot believe it. He is just an amazing man and we are just such good friends. Literally I am in shock and while on the phone with him and I am crying my eyes out he is being so strong. Where he gets this, I just don't know. This is his second time having cancer and I am SO scared for him. Please keep Vic in your prayers and thoughts. My dad passed away from cancer at the age of 49 years old. Vic is a giver like I am and he is always giving to everyone else despite feeling so badly. Girls, I am so worried for him. I don't know what to do. If anything happened to him I would die...just die!! So when I hear "I have cancer" I feel literally sick to my stomach and it is not a good reaction that I feel because of my dad. But, I just wanted to share this with you all. I know my last post was not so happy and this post is not so happy and I am just so worried for my friends right now. Why this is happening to such amazing people is so confusing to me. My counselor told me to read this book called "Why Bad Things Happen To Good People" and I am going to go download it to my Nook Color right now. I need to see things from another perspective.  I am sorry for such sad posts from me over these past 2 days but please keep all of us in your thoughts and prayers!! Thanks girls.. I will talk to you all very soon!! ~Terri

22 comments:

Amy E said...

I'm so sorry about your news Terri. My husband is a three time cancer survivor. His latest is one they can't do anything about, but his prognosis for a normal life span is good! My reason for telling you this, is because of your statement about how you were crying your eyes out but he was so strong. It's been the same way for me whenever my husband has been diagnosed. The person who is diagnosed just deals with it...it's what their brain makes them do, but the friend/spouse/loved one can't do anything about it, because you don't have any control over the situation. Therefore, you feel helplessness and worry. What you're feeling is perfectly normal...especially considering the fact that you lost your dad to cancer.

I don't know what type of cancer your friend was diagnosed with, but I do know that HUGE strides have been made in treatments since your father passed. My husband's doctor told him (the first time he was diagnosed with lymphoma in 1996) that several years prior, there was a mortality rate that was off the charts, but with new medications, there was now (in 1996) a 95% recovery rate.

Your friend's chances of recovery are good. And the fact that you'll be there to support him will make things so much easier for him. Positive thoughts, my dear!!!

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Look around the corner said...

Oh my this is bad news, i hope you have people around you who can support you with this bad news to handle. all you can do is hope and pray, things will go well for your friend, i'll keep you both in my prayers.

Eveline

genagirl said...

I don't know you personally but I love looking at your blog. Just know that there are people out here sending positive energy towards your friend. He beat it once, he can do it again.

Yasmin said...

Please know that I'm praying for your friend and for you. I really don't know what to say ....but I have great faith in prayer and positive thoughts. I hope that your friend recovers from this one too. It had been happening with so many people so I hope he is one these people too.
Hugs,
Yasmin.

Anne said...

Hello Terri have just read this post and your previous one and Oh my what a difficult time you are having. My heart goes out to both of your friends and I do hope that you have someone to help you through all this sadness as well. I will have both of your friends and you in my prayers tonight. Hugs Annex

By Shawna Rae said...

Wow... yes it is sad... and I hate that you and two of your friends now have to deal with so much sorrow. You all will be in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs!

Maria said...

Terri,

I'm so sorry to hear your friend has cancer. I will pray for him every night for him to bet this.

Donya/Okscrappinmama said...

Awwwhhhh Terri!! ((((hugs)))) I'm sorry to hear that you have a dear friend DX with cancer, and then your friend Sheila passing and friend Dawnetta going through a rough time because of that. I will be thinking of you all and you are in my prayers. I have your address so maybe I can send a card for your firend.

Donya

Theresa said...

Terri, I am so sorry to hear about your friends. I will keep all you in my thoughts and wish you all the strength you need to get through this trying time in your life. {{{HUGS}}}

Jamie said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news! I will pray for him that he beats it again. And pray for you as well as you deal with it. Again I am sorry.

Esther said...

Terri,
I am so sorry you received such bad news!
Be strong,I know several people who have had cancer more than once and survived!!
I am a cancer survivor myself!
By the way I have read that book "When Bad Things Happen To Good People" and I highly recommend it!!! It is a very good book!
I will keep you and your friends in my prayers!

DebC said...

I know I don't know you personally but I follow your blog and I have tears in my eyes right now. I get so emotionally attached to people even when I don't know them and I also seem to feel the pain people are going through. I am a very sensitive person and I know my family has dealt with cancer also and I am praying for your friend and you to make it through a difficult time. Hugs to you both.
Deb C
dsc105@live.com

Rachelle said...

Terri,
I am so sorry and sad that your friend has cancer, I just want you to know that He is in my prayers & thoughts..You are a wonderful friend Terri, You don't need to apologize for having emotions..You have a great blog and sometimes we just have hard days and if our viewers love us they will understand that.
God Bless You Sweetie
Praying for you..
Rachelle

Ladybug said...

Terri, I am so sorry for all of this. I still don't u/stand why bad things happen to good people. I need to read that book you mentioned.

Take care and just know that you and your friend will be in a lot of thoughts and prayers!

Flamenco92627/ Julieta said...

I'm so sorry for this tough time you're going through! Many hugs and prayers sent your and your friends' ways.

Pendra said...

Oh Terri... I am so sorry for your friends and for you. It is such a hard thing to bear to see people you love either hurting because of a loss they have suffered or to watch someone you love actually suffering. I am so touched by your compassion for people and wished that I could help carry your load just a little, but in all that we can do for each other this seems to be the one thing we cannot do. Just know there are a lot of people who care for you and will be here for you to talk to (or type to, which ever the case may be). I have now been at my Mother's for 2 weeks and with Hospice are trying to make her more comfortable in the end stages of breast cancer. No one who has lived such a good life should have to suffer so... and Terri I know what you mean about Vic... my Mother says there are so many suffering more than her and she is so strong. I just wanted to let you know that you are cared for and in my thoughts... as well as I am thinking of your friends! Take care... HUGS, Pendra

Friday said...

Oh Terri, my prayers go out to your friend Vic. I feel the same about why bad things happen to good people. There is a reason for everything we do in life. God has plans for all of us where here or with him. Please keep smiling even through this hard time. I know that is asking alot but it may help. I now what to read that book too. TFS...

Pinkladibug said...

Im really sorry to hear that news and your right about the word "cancer" it's very scray...I have had and am dealing with it in my family and the best thing you can do is try to be stong for your friend...it will be hard but you need to be positive and pray.....prayer works.

God bless both of you with strenght.
April

Susan said...

Hi Terri,

How are you doing dear? I am so sorry to hear about this bad news and you are going through such a sad time right now. I wish there was something I could say to make your pain go away but maybe just knowing people do care will help ease the pain a little.

I myself heard some really sad news on Friday. A dear friend of mine had to rush her 17 year old daughter to the ER only to find out she has a baseball size cyst on her ovary which she was told may be cancer. I mean, 17, I just don't get it. Then today I found out that on Wednesday they are going in to remove the ovary. I'm just heartbroken about this. I went through so much with endometreosis and cysts on my ovaries but I was in my early 30's when it all started and already had my two sons. This girl hasn't even reached adulthood yet and she has to go through this.

With all this heartbreak Terri it is important for us to try and stay positive. I want you to know I'm here if you need a shoulder ok?

{{hugs}}

Susan

Riti said...

Terri i am sorry to hear about yr Friend. I know how u're feeling cuz i have lost my Uncle to Cancer when he was only 30 yrs of age & had a 1 yr old son when he passed away. Will keep U & Yr Friends in my Prayers !!

Hugs,
Riti

Susan said...

Hi Terri!

Thanks for letting me know about that spam issue. Ugh, I just don't understand how is it people can't think of better things to do than mess with others. I just delete those comments but if I do see one get through I will have to read the comments before they are posted. It's sad that people have to go through extra steps because bad people can't stop being bad!

I guess we have another in commen with ovary issues huh? Did you know that an ovary can grow back? Yep, it can! I had endometreosis really bad which caused my left ovary to adhere to my colon. When they had to remove the ovaries the doctor had to leave a little remnant attahed to the colon or risk putting a hole in the colon, which wouldn't have been good. Well, he didn't tell me this but 7 years had past and I'm in the ER with horrible pain in my left side only to find out I had an ovarian cyst on an ovary I had removed years ago! Women are walking miracles aren't we?

Are you feeling a little better Terri? You had such a bad week last week I hope this week is a little easier for you. ;)

Susan

Shawnee said...

Terri,
I am so sorry for this news. I am praying for your friend and you. Remember God still heals and He is in control.

Shawnee
http://www.blessedonthebrightside.com